Terms like “sexoholic” and “sex addict” get tossed about a lot these days. Some people use the terms to describe people that have a lot of sex or use them in a joking fashion. Is it true that people can have too much sex though? Is it possible to be addicted to sex?
Just because people have group sex or have a lot of partners does not make them sexoholics. If you are polyamorous, that does not make you a sexoholic.
People have views that take this concept and weave it into their own personal beliefs. They make it what they want to. In reality, it was intended to compare to the term alcoholic. The impactful part is that if you are having so much sex that it is negatively impacting other aspects of your life, you might be a sexoholic. Fortunately, there really isn’t a lot of proof out there that people can get addicted to sex. Though many people say that people can be addicted to pretty much anything, the proof just isn’t there. That said, if your sex-life is affecting your life in negative ways… it may be time to make some changes.
If you are constantly thinking about sex, and can’t get your work done because of it. Start keeping track of the number of times you think about it over the work day. Tell yourself not to think about it when it comes up and go for fewer times the following week by telling your brain right when it starts happening. Even if you don’t think about it a lesser number of times early one, you are likely to spend less total time thinking about it. This means more time for productivity.
Are you losing your friends because of your love of sex? Your jobs? Your partners?
Again, time to make some changes. Whether exploring only open relationships or polyamory, taking the advice above, talking to a therapist, or just learning more about boundaries and applying them, there are plenty of changes that can be tried.
On a positive note, there are plenty of people out there that have a lot of sex and no negative impacts on the other aspects of their lives. You can find some of them right here on our phone dating chat line! Be safe, be healthy, and enjoy.